Self-Inflicted Suffering

Beloved students, once again I greet you with joy and celebration for the path that each of you is following as you seek to become whole. May you have every blessing imaginable as you continue your spiritual work, both on your own behalf and that of the planet.

…In the West, often the word “suffering” is applied only to what other cultures might term “extreme suffering.” Overlooking the smaller areas of suffering in this way has thus become a Western coping strategy… The simple answer is that people suffer because they want circumstances, situations, conditions and/or relationships to be other than they are. Further, most people not only want certain things to be other than they are, they are also often strongly attached to the way they believe things should be. Here we get a peek into the old craving/aversion spectrum that sits right in the heart of all suffering.


For some people, attaining neutrality is a radical notion. The mind takes off on its own course and demands: “Well what about all the injustice in the world? I can’t be neutral about that, of I’d be condoning it!” In truth, anyone who thinks that he or she can change the way the world appears in the conventional reality is wrestling with a delusion. The only thing that one can actually change is the way he or she sees the world and the conventional reality. Simply stated, you change the world in your own sphere. You learn to “brighten the corner where you are,” as the children’s song goes. The ego mind loves to extend itself way out into the broadest perspective it can muster, focusing on world conditions that are beyond its own reach. In so doing, it foten neglects the people who are right before it, with their needs and suffering going completely unheeded. Or perhaps the ego gets a little bored with those who are closest, and puts forth the vibes – if not the words – “When is she going to get over this? Will she never get a life?”

While one should, of course, hold compassion for the suffering so rampant in the world at large, the real work to be done must occur in the sphere of one’s own influence. If one has the power to benefit countless beings by making a single decision or taking some action, then by all means, he or she should make that decision or take that action. However, some folks have a tendency to lose themselves in obsessing on world conditions over which they, personally, have no power or influence. This is little more than a strategy for avoiding taking action on the goodness that needs to be expressed for those in one’s immediate sphere of experience. It is always fascinating to probe the ingenious way the mind sorts and holds such matters.

In truth, it does not matter where on this fine planet you experience suffering, or in what circumstances. If you are human, you will feel the pangs of suffering. The suffering is your call to plunge beneath the surface of that emotional density and investigate thoroughly the workings of the mind. If you return to the earlier example of taking insult from someone else’s words, upon investigation, you will discover that the suffering was in your mind. While you may have had a problem with the interaction, the other may not have. While the words may have come from the other person, the problem did not. Since the problem cannot come from the event, since all events are actually neutral until interpreted, the only source left for the arising sense of problem-ness is your own mind.

Your task, then, is to take note of how your mind holds the event and the other person, as well as the sense of problem-ness that has arisen in your awareness. As you scrutinize these parts of the experience, you can begin to unravel some of the tangled thoughts and feelings your mind has woven into the knotty web that binds you. Your emotions, which arise in response to your thoughts, give you instant feedback on your thoughts and projections, because they carry the charge that is the clue that you have not reached the level of the great neutrality.


Negotiating the path to neutrality requires more than just analyzing the areas you hold as problems. You are seeking a full disclosure from that ego mind of yours as to how it manages to manipulate you so predictably in the areas it labels as problems. One of the ego’s most powerful ploys is the use of comparing mind. Often, the mind holds that is would be better for you (it) if things were a different way than they are (or appear to be).


In the final analysis, if you want to stop suffering, you have to see what your mind is holding in any given moment that causes you to suffer. In painful or highly charged moments, you simply ask yourself: “How can I hold this differently?” Then, you make a conscious decision to interrupt the mind’s patterned reactions, and you bring forth the integrity to hold yourself to doing so. In a situation, such as the one given above (receiving the insult), you might say to yourself in the moment: “Okay; I’m feeling a charge with those words; I’m feeling insulted, but I’m going to hold this experience as if the other person is just having a bad day.” In making the choice to hold the experience differently, you may even feel some internal point of tension relax. The decision not to believe every thought your mind thinks can be remarkably freeing.

This is a beginning point in “taming” the mind. In truth, nothing can arise within that you cannot tame. Whether or not you know it, you are up to the task of taming that ego mind, and you will, in fact, ultimately succeed at taming it. This taming happens when you come to outsmart it, and to do that, you must first understand how the mind works. You discover how it holds a given experience, and what meaning it places on believing that someone insulted you. By objectively investigating the mind and the ploys it uses, you discover that you can indeed enter the great neutrality. Further, you deactivate developing mind- at least until you are sure you understand what actually happened- which may be different from what the mind interprets as having happened. Ultimately, you discover that taming the mind is the way to stop suffering.

The irony of all this is that, in the end, you actually feel grateful for all those painful moments. Used well, they lead you to clarity. Thus, you thank the mind, for indeed, it is a kind of teacher for you. Reclaim your rightful creative power and just refuse to let it get by with jerking your chain so much. Learn to gently love the ego mind into wholeness. Although it will balk at the suggestion, the ego mind needs to be tamed. Once tamed, it expands from consciousness into consciousness, which is the source of your compassion, your wisdom, your healing and ultimately, your liberation.

Know that you are greatly loved and fully supported in this marvelous journey. I celebrate, as well as cherish, your desire to go free, your desire to bring yourself and the rest of the world a little less suffering.

Djwhal Khul through Kathlyn Kingdon

Crystal Placebos

I just finished a book called Crystal Power: the Ultimate Placebo Effect. The author, Lawrence E. Jerome, explains himself as being open to \”new age\” alternatives, but approaches such healing with a critical eye. In his book, Jerome claims that the placebo effect is very real, and could complement modern medicine if it were welcomed and integrated with modern medicine.

The psychological equivalent of the placebo is the Hawthorne effect.

Crystal Power was a fun little book that begins building bridges between models of alternative and western medicine. It made me more aware of my own – and indeed humanity\’s – very innate capabilities. Just imagine: if we are unconsciously healing ourselves 35% of the time simply based on our own intentions (and our doctors), what could we do by channeling that energy in a more direct way?! The power is not in the thing itself (false idol); the crystal is the tool that transmutes our intent into being through conscious ritual acts.

Possibilities are endless. The time is now!

Hologram of Love, Steve Rother

Falling in Love with Yourself

We tell you that love is a form of energy within the spectrum that we call light. Therefore, a hologram that can be created with light can also be created with love. We wish to share with you how to make a hologram of love.

The way we see the expression of human love is in the act of balancing. Each one of you is slightly out of balance with some part of your energy. Find a person who can help you balance that energy and you have great potential for a deep, lasting relationshift. Basically, relationshifts are a mirror. You see yourself through their eyes and you reflect them. When two people come together and form a connection and one person looks into another\’s eyes and sees themselves through those eyes, this is the true reflection of the heart. If you like the person you see through their eyes, you become a friend. If you love the person you see through their eyes, you for a love relationship. The word \”love\” has meant so much and yet so little. It has been so restricted to small areas, including the small area of sexuality and relationships. Humans have developed habits of working with conditional love. Conditional love has worked very well in the lower vibrations of your existence. As you move forward, it is no secret that you will be moving out of conditional love and into unconditional love. You will find that conditional love is a rather unique human invention. Therefore, it is not possible to make a hologram of conditional love.


Let us give you a specific example. Let us say that you have one relationship that means a lot to you. You really care about this person and the relationship between you. We actually see three vibrations here: the two of you and the third vibration, which is the harmonic of the two of you. When the two vibrations meet and support each other they create a third vibration, which we call the relationship.

Many of you are attached to the relationship, not to the love you see reflected. This has to do with your attachment to the idea or concept of love. As you continue to evolve you will begin releasing your attachment to love. This is the first movement into unconditional love. It is not easy to do this, for your history of successes is largely based on conditional love.

What happens is that you look at yourself through this person\’s eyes and you love the reflection you see, so you start to build something with them. Over a period of time you build a relationship. At some point, one or both of you begin to grow very quickly, and the relationship begins to grow apart. If you can start the hologram of love, it can move into a multidimensional level which will make all of these transition\’s easier.

Let us give you some practical examples as to how you can do this. Let us start with a love relationship. Let\’s say that  you fall in love with the way someone makes you feel. Focus on that, and then find another point to fall in love with. Yes, find something else about them that you can fall in love with. Imagine this as a beam of light hitting the target from a different angle. Make it something new a build it as strong as you can. Then find at least one more point that you can fall in love with and do your best to focus and build all of them. You have just created a hologram of love. It is now an energy imprint that stays in the ethers. If the imprint is left unhampered, it will be the form around which energy will naturally gather. The hologram of love can be used to enhance many other things including business, projects and many levels of relationships. All of it is based on unconditional love. It will not create a relationship, because relationships are built rather than created. But it will make a space for the best reflection possible within a relationship and greatly affect communication. Understand that this is your reflection in each of the ways you fall in love with them. In a way you are creating the hologram by falling in love with your own reflection.


Each person is multifaceted. There are different parts of you inside each dimensional reality. If you are able to fall in love with the artist and the healer in someone – different dimensions of that person – then you are able to recognize different aspects of the same person. This too can be used to create a hologram of love that is very magical. It allows you to see yourself in a very unique way, a way that will only get stronger as you move from one level to the other. But it means looking for those possibilities. It means searching for those different parts of this person that you can fall in love with. It also means releasing the restriction – letting go of the fear of falling in love and the fear of being hurt. Are you going to be hurt again? Yes, we pretty much guarantee it. Yes, at least once and maybe more if you are lucky.The more unconditional love that you can bring into each relationship from different angles, the deeper and easier the communications will be and the tendency to grow apart will not be a problem. This will allow you to see a very unique and special view of yourself, and ultimately you fall in love with yourself. When that happens, you will start to release the need for love outside of yourself. That is actually the best point from which to build a relationship – whether it is in a love relationship, with your children at home or boss at work – find those pieces that reflect you well and amplify them.

You may ask: “How can I fall in love with this person more fully? How can I appreciate every aspect of this person? How can I find new things that I am not attached to, but I can love because I see my reflection in them?” You are now at a level of vibration where you can create this energy and walk forward with a new form of love, which will easily move from one level to the next. We have no conditions. That is our expectation of you: none. We love you for being who you are.

The group through Steve Rother 
As published in Sedona, Journal of EMERGENCE! 
July 2008

Secret Life of Plants, Tompkins & Bird

“To Goethe the fact that the action of the root of a plant is directed earthward toward moisture and darkness, whereas the stem or trunk strives skyward in the opposite direction toward the light and the air, was a truly magical phenomenon.

To explain it, Goethe postulated a force opposite, or polar, to Newton’s gravity, to which he gave the name ‘levity.’ ‘Newton… explained to you – or at least was once supposed to explain, why an apple fell; but he never thought of explaining the exact correlative but infinitely more difficult question, how the apple got up there.’ The concept led Goethe to a picture of the earth as being surrounded and penetrated by a field of force in every respect the opposite of the earth’s gravitational field.”

-Peter Tompkins & Christopher Bird
The Secret Life of Plants

The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz

Your life is the manifestation of your dream; it is an art.

One day he slept in a cave, he dreamed that he saw his own body sleeping… This is what he discovered: Everything in existence is a manifestation of the one living being we call God. Everything is God. And he came to the conclusion that human perception is merely light perceiving light. He also saw that matter is a mirror – everything is a mirror that reflects light & creates images of that light – and the world of illusion, the Dream, is just like smoke which doesn’t allow us to see what we really are. “The real us is pure love, pure light,” he said…

And he realized that everyone was dreaming, but without awareness, without knowing what they really are. They couldn’t see him as themselves because there was a wall of fog or smoke between mirrors. And that wall of fog was made by the interpretation of images of light – the Dream of humans…

The dream of the planet is just a dream. It is not even real… To be Toltec is a way of life. It is a way of life where there are no leaders & no followers, where you have your own truth and live your own truth. A Toltec becomes wise, becomes wild, and becomes free again…

Imagine that you have permission to be happy & to really enjoy your life. Your life is free of conflict with yourself and others.

Imagine living your life without fear of expressing your dreams. You know what you want, what you don’t want, & when you want it. You are free to change your life the way you really want to. You are not afraid to ask for what you need, to say yes or no to anything or anyone.

Imagine living your life without fear of being judged by others. You no longer rule your behavior according to what others may think about you. You are no longer responsible for anyone’s opinion. You have no need to control anyone, and no one controls you, either.

Imagine living your life without judging others. You can easily forgive others & let go of any judgments that you have. You don’t have the need to be right, & you don’t need to make anyone else wrong. You respect yourself & everyone else, and they respect you in return.

Imagine living without fear of loving and not being loved. You are no longer afraid to be rejected and you don’t have the need to be accepted. You can say “I love you” with no shame or justification. You can walk in the world with your heart completely open and not be afraid to be hurt.

Imagine living your life without being afraid to take a risk & to explore life. You are not afraid to lose anything. You are not afraid to be alive in the world, and you are not afraid to die.

Imagine that you love yourself just the way you are. You love your body just the way it is, & you love your emotions just the way they are. You know that you are perfect just as you are… you can live in the state of grace, the state of bliss, the dream of heaven…

Only love has the ability to put you in that state of bliss. Being in bliss is like being in love. Being in love is like being in bliss. You are floating in the clouds. You are perceiving love wherever you go. It is entirely possible to live this way all the time.

Today, Creator of the Universe, we ask that you come to us and share with us a strong communion of love. We know that your real name is Love, that to have a communion with you means to share the same vibration, the same frequency that you are, because you are the only thing that exists in the universe.

Today, help us to be like you are, to love life, to be life, to be love. Help us to love the way you love, with no conditions, no expectations, no obligations, without any judgment. Help us to love & accept ourselves without any judgment, because when we judge ourselves we find ourselves guilty and we need to be punished.

Help us to love everything you create unconditionally especially other human beings, especially those who live around us – all our relatives and people whom we try so hard to love. Because when we reject them, we reject you.

Help us to love others just the way they are with no conditions. Help us to accept them the way they are, without judgment, because if we judge them, we find them guilty, we blame them, and we have the need to punish them.

Today, clean our hearts of any emotional poison that we have, free our minds from any judgment so that we can live in complete peace and complete love.

Today is a very special day. Today we open our hearts to love again so that we can tell each other, “I love you,” without any fear, and really mean it. Today we offer ourselves to you. Come to us, use our voices, use our eyes, use our hands, and use our hearts to share ourselves in a communion of love with everyone. Today, Creator, help us to be just like you are. Thank you for everything that we receive this day, especially for the freedom to be who we really are.

(1) Be Impeccable with your word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

(2) Don’t take anything personally: Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

(3) Don’t make assumptions: Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

(4) Always do your best: Your best is going to change from moment to moment, it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.

-Excerpts from The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz

Becoming Quantum, Kryon


For the Shaman
For two years we have opened the door to quantum cellular shift and we started giving you information that is simply unbelievable. In your DNA there is the Akashic record. All of the lifetimes that you have lived on this planet are there. The Higher-Self has been the same soul energy in every lifetime. Therefore, you\’ve got a friend who participated in every one of them! Up to this point, all of this past life information has been stacked like the ice core [the linear pipe-shaped ice core that contains history as measured by scientists at the poles]. You\’ve got to look along the linear marks and see who you were, perhaps what the energies were and what happened. All of you assumed it was untouchable and in the past, just like looking at an old newspaper.

…If you can pull on your past life energy, you will find DNA that is pure and never had the problem you have now. How? Let me ask you this. Do you love anyone on the planet? If the answer is yes, then I ask you… how?

…Do you see what I’m saying? What is it you wish you could do? What are your blocks? What are the things that you think are you that can\’t be changed? In the Akash, there is also you, many of them. Why don’t you go there and replace the current you with the former you? That is mining the Akash. That’s a quantum Human Being, and it goes way beyond what you were told past life energies were for…

You lived all those lives. Think about that. It’s life experience; it’s wisdom, shaman. Now, go mine it. That’s what the quantum Human Being does. It creates mastery. Think about that.

Kryon o
f Magnetic Service
Sedona, Arizona,
June 13, 2009

The Sunrise Ruby, Rumi

In the early morning hour,
just before dawn, lover and beloved awake
and take a drink of water.

She asks, “Do you love me or yourself more?
Really, tell the absolute truth.”

He says, “There is nothing left of me.
I’m like a ruby held up to the sunrise.
Is it still a stone, or a world
made of redness? It has no resistance
to sunlight.”

This is how Hallaj said, I am God,
and told the truth!

The ruby and the sunrise are one.
Be courageous and discipline yourself.

Completely become hearing and ear,
and wear this sun-ruby as an earring.

Work. Keep digging your well.
Don’t think about getting off from work.
Water is there somewhere.

Submit to a daily practice.
Your loyalty to that
is a ring on the door.

Keep knocking, and the joy inside
will eventually open a window
and look out to see who’s there.

The Essential Rumi, Coleman Barks